Long Time, No See (Plus a Pic!)
So, it has been a long time since I’ve updated this blog, but we have stepped up TTWD this last month or so, and I wanted to write about it.
I guess it was actually a couple months ago now that S and I had a talk about D/s and what we both want out of it, and how we think we should get that. We both agreed that I do too much bratting, which is something neither of us wants. Instead of me straining at the end of my (figurative) leash to see how much I can get away with, we want me trying to please, becoming more skilled at submission and by extension, having my behavioral standards raised, which will actually help me not brat as much, I think.
We call this early stage Basic Obedience. It helps both of us to think of me like a pup (though we don’t do puppy play), who needs to learn basic obedience right now, before graduating to Agility Training. This helps me (and sometimes her) remember that when I make mistakes, I’m still in training, and we both need to improve my training and consistency. I’ve invited her to “train” me to be the submissive SHE wants, that this isn’t just about me getting spankings and dominance to help me feel safe/sexy/whatever.
She has taken that invitation rather well.
We also got a few dowel rod things, that we’ve been using as canes. First, I want to disclaimer, and point out that these are not ideal as canes. They can (so I’ve read) splinter, break easily, and lack the flexibility of a true cane. I think they probably also lack the density of a quality cane. That being said, I’ve had multiple canings with these since we implemented our new routine, and so far for us, they have worked great. The thicker one is for when my Wife is most displeased with me. I can barely handle it. It’s a lot of thud and I hate it.
The thin one, which until today I would have said I liked, is it’s own nightmare. It is all whippy and sting-y, which I normally can’t stand in an implement (ping pong paddles and The Whippy Thing are NOT my friends), but I like it better than the heavier rod for some reason. It stings like hell but I can make myself stay there and take it.
Today, she really laid into me with that thin cane. I haven’t been punished in a week or so, which is about the longest I’ve gone without punishment since we started the new training regiment. And it wasn’t because I hadn’t earned it, it was really b/c one or the other of us hasn’t been feeling well. So, today, I got 9 strokes with the heavier cane for not taking my medication regularly like I’m supposed to (OW. Though it was one stroke less than it would have been b/c I was helpful about pausing the movie. Go me). Then 10 with the thin one for my recent being a “mouthy shit” (always said with love) and general poor attitude. The last 5 nearly had me in tears. Lucking my Wife was very patient, stroking me, telling me I could do it, and reminding me it was supposed to hurt. She actually hit hard enough to leave welts, that rose up very quickly, which she seldom does!
In honor of that, we agreed to take a pic and post it here. 🙂